Children can be very resilient. Yet when they experience trauma, such as child abuse or harmful pressures from their environment, their innocence can be deeply affected by emotional wounds. As counselors, teachers, parents, or community members, our role is not to “fix” them but to guide them back to safety, trust, and a sense of self-worth.

Childhood trauma whether from physical, emotional, sexual abuse, rejection, bullying, or discrimination can deeply affect a child’s mental health. Children internalize pain differently than adults do. They do so as shame, fear, or guilt, often believing they are to blame for whatever may have happened. As someone who has experienced childhood trauma, I can remember dealing with some of the consequences which include symptoms such as:

● Withdrawal or isolation
● Sudden anger, anxiety, or fear
● Trouble sleeping or concentrating
● Low self-esteem or self-destructive behaviors
● Difficulty trusting adults

It is important for adults to understand that these behaviors are signs of pain, not disobedience, in order to provide effective support. When these symptoms are overlooked or ignored, the impact can follow the child into adulthood and contribute to long-term mental health challenges. Below is a list of helpful tips for guiding children through traumatic experiences.

Safety

Children who have experienced trauma live in “survival mode.” It is important for caregivers to build safety before anything else and provide consistency and care.

● Keep routines consistent and predictable.
● Use calm tones, gentle body language, and patience.
● Allow them to express themselves at their own pace; their silence can be part of their healing.

Listen

When a child shares their pain, they are handing you their trust. It is important to listen without judging. You can do so by:

● Avoid interrupting or rushing their story.
● Validate their feelings
● Never make promises you can’t keep

Children don’t always need answers. Sometimes they just need to know someone truly hears them.

Educate

Many traumatized children don’t have the words for what they feel. Counseling should include education on emotional awareness for children. Below are some helpful tips for teaching kids how to deal with their emotions.

● Helping them name their emotions using adjectives.
● Using art, play therapy, or storytelling
● Teaching coping tools such as breathing exercises or grounding techniques for kids

When children can identify emotions, they regain control over them.

Collaborate

Children heal best when everyone around them is aligned in compassion so it’s important to collaborate with caregivers and support systems in their life.

● It is important to work closely with parents, guardians, and teachers to ensure consistent care
● Provide resources to families on trauma-informed parenting
● Encourage family therapy when possible to rebuild trust and attachment

Empower

Children need to rebuild a sense of power. Below listed are some helpful tips to empower children.

● Help them set small, achievable goals
● Encourage creativity and hobbies
● Give affirmations

Counseling children who have been through traumatic experiences requires patience, compassion, and consistency. As a father to a 1 year old daughter, My mission is to protect and to prevent my daughter from ever experiencing any sort of trauma. However, life is unpredictable and knowing how to cope and react in such circumstances is important to me as a parent. That is why I am an advocate of counseling services. At Whittier Counseling Center, we help parents navigate mental health issues with tools, compassion and hope. When we guide a child through trauma, we don’t just help them survive, we help them reclaim the joy of being a child again.

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Written by Christopher Maae

I was born blind with a condition called congenital amaurosis. From the very beginning, my family—especially my mother—never treated my blindness as a weakness. My father’s role was to ensure I was safe and provided for, and my mother’s vision for me was clear: blindness was part of me, but it would never define or limit me.

This supportive foundation gave me strength, but it also made me realize that many in my Samoan community face struggles that remain hidden. In Samoan culture, the ‘āiga (family) is sacred, and challenges are expected to be handled within it. While this value is powerful, it often means that conversations about mental health—depression, anxiety, trauma—stay unspoken.

The truth is these struggles are far more common than we think. Studies have found that people with vision loss experience depression and anxiety at significantly higher rates than those without. For example, about one in four older adults with vision impairment experience depression, compared to around one in ten in the general population. Among Native Hawaiian and Pacific Islander communities, nearly four in ten report symptoms of depression or anxiety. Yet, far too few ever seek professional help.

Combating Mental Health Stigma

In Samoan culture, the word “ma” means shame or embarrassment. For generations, “ma” has kept families from openly acknowledging mental health challenges. Seeking therapy or counseling outside the family circle can sometimes be seen as weakness or as dishonoring the ‘āiga.

But I believe the opposite is true. Seeking help is an act of strength. It is not abandoning Fa’a Samoa (the Samoan way)—it is deepening it. Because when our minds are cared for, our families are stronger.

I was fortunate that my parents did not see my blindness as something to be ashamed of. That perspective taught me that stigma does not have to define us. And it shouldn’t define how we talk about mental health, either.

Community Resources in Whittier

Breaking silence requires support, and here in Whittier, we have resources available. The Whittier Counseling Center offers:

• Individual and group counseling for children, teens, and adults.
• Affordable, nonprofit services for families who might otherwise feel that therapy is out of reach.
• Culturally sensitive support, with clinicians who understand how faith, family, and cultural identity influence the healing process.

For individuals who are blind or visually impaired, accessibility is critical. This can include screen-reader–friendly websites, large-print or Braille resources, and phone or virtual sessions to overcome transportation barriers. These small adjustments ensure that mental health services are truly available to everyone.

A Call to Break the Silence

Blindness has shaped my perspective, but it has never silenced me. I believe the same is true for mental health—it does not need to silence us.

• To my Samoan community: mental health is not ma. It is human.
• To my fellow blind and disabled brothers and sisters: you are not invisible.
• To families everywhere: embracing mental health care does not weaken fa’a Samoa—it strengthens it.

Together, we can raise awareness, break down stigma, and connect with the resources that help us heal. Silence has held us back for too long. It’s time to choose courage, conversation, and care.

Resources for Further Reading

• National Eye Institute: Vision Loss and Mental Health
• Mental Health America: Pacific Islander Mental Health
• Whittier Counseling Center

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