Children can be very resilient. Yet when they experience trauma, such as child abuse or harmful pressures from their environment, their innocence can be deeply affected by emotional wounds. As counselors, teachers, parents, or community members, our role is not to “fix” them but to guide them back to safety, trust, and a sense of self-worth.

Childhood trauma whether from physical, emotional, sexual abuse, rejection, bullying, or discrimination can deeply affect a child’s mental health. Children internalize pain differently than adults do. They do so as shame, fear, or guilt, often believing they are to blame for whatever may have happened. As someone who has experienced childhood trauma, I can remember dealing with some of the consequences which include symptoms such as:

● Withdrawal or isolation
● Sudden anger, anxiety, or fear
● Trouble sleeping or concentrating
● Low self-esteem or self-destructive behaviors
● Difficulty trusting adults

It is important for adults to understand that these behaviors are signs of pain, not disobedience, in order to provide effective support. When these symptoms are overlooked or ignored, the impact can follow the child into adulthood and contribute to long-term mental health challenges. Below is a list of helpful tips for guiding children through traumatic experiences.

Safety

Children who have experienced trauma live in “survival mode.” It is important for caregivers to build safety before anything else and provide consistency and care.

● Keep routines consistent and predictable.
● Use calm tones, gentle body language, and patience.
● Allow them to express themselves at their own pace; their silence can be part of their healing.

Listen

When a child shares their pain, they are handing you their trust. It is important to listen without judging. You can do so by:

● Avoid interrupting or rushing their story.
● Validate their feelings
● Never make promises you can’t keep

Children don’t always need answers. Sometimes they just need to know someone truly hears them.

Educate

Many traumatized children don’t have the words for what they feel. Counseling should include education on emotional awareness for children. Below are some helpful tips for teaching kids how to deal with their emotions.

● Helping them name their emotions using adjectives.
● Using art, play therapy, or storytelling
● Teaching coping tools such as breathing exercises or grounding techniques for kids

When children can identify emotions, they regain control over them.

Collaborate

Children heal best when everyone around them is aligned in compassion so it’s important to collaborate with caregivers and support systems in their life.

● It is important to work closely with parents, guardians, and teachers to ensure consistent care
● Provide resources to families on trauma-informed parenting
● Encourage family therapy when possible to rebuild trust and attachment

Empower

Children need to rebuild a sense of power. Below listed are some helpful tips to empower children.

● Help them set small, achievable goals
● Encourage creativity and hobbies
● Give affirmations

Counseling children who have been through traumatic experiences requires patience, compassion, and consistency. As a father to a 1 year old daughter, My mission is to protect and to prevent my daughter from ever experiencing any sort of trauma. However, life is unpredictable and knowing how to cope and react in such circumstances is important to me as a parent. That is why I am an advocate of counseling services. At Whittier Counseling Center, we help parents navigate mental health issues with tools, compassion and hope. When we guide a child through trauma, we don’t just help them survive, we help them reclaim the joy of being a child again.

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Creating a healthy balance between our mental health and finances is possible. Implementing self-care, seeking therapy, and practicing stress-management techniques can have a positive impact on our mental health. Simultaneously, effective strategies such as budgeting, saving, and seeking financial advice can alleviate some of the stress associated with financial concerns.

By addressing both aspects simultaneously, we can strive towards a healthier and more balanced life. Remember, seeking support, both professionally and personally, is a sign of strength and an investment in our long-term well-being. Let us prioritize our mental health and financial stability for a brighter future.

Below is a link to a Facebook webinar hosted by AARP where I discussed financial strategies that can lead to financial and mental health stability.

Link to Webinar

If you or a loved one are experiencing a difficult situation and you want to schedule an appointment with a mental health professional, you can contact Whittier Counseling Center at (562) 907-7466. You can also visit our website at whittiercounselingcenter.org.

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Here’s how you can get access to Headspace

1. Click on the following link: https://work.headspace.com/lacdmhresidents/member-enroll
2. You’ll need to be physically in Los Angeles County when you sign up.
3. Please make sure to allow your browser to share your location when prompted.
4. This offer is only available to those who don’t have an existing subscription to Headspace

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